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Warning: It might smother your relationship and affect you too
Being overly possessive about your partner can choke a healthy relationship to death. A healthy relationship is one that allows both the partners to have their own space along with being committed to each other. However if you find that your boyfriend wants you to belong to him rather than allow you to grow and evolve in the relationship, then its time to rethink. And as it is rightly said that precaution is better than cure, we advise you to nip the issues right in the bud before the situation gets worse
Here are the most common signs of a possessive boyfriend that you should watch out for.
Adamant to know your whereabouts
• The most obvious sign of a possessive beau is that he wants to control the reins of your life and other relationships. If he can't reach
you on phone late in the evening, he is most likely to question you all the minutest details of your time spent, why were you out till so late in the night and with whom.
He calls you innumerable times a day
• He calls you countless times a day apparently just to ‘make sure that you are doing fine’. It certainly is not romantic if your boyfriend calls or messages you in the middle of the night, when you have gone off to sleep. It is not love rather is the insecurity, which makes him call you several times a day just to find out what you are doing and who you are with. Such a person will soon go to the extent of screening your calls, checking the caller ID and before you come to terms with it, deciding which calls you should take and which ignore.
When you are his only friend
• This is manipulative behavior at its devious best. By claiming that you are the focus of his life, he seems to be putting you above everybody else but actually he puts you in a position where every little thing in your life has to be about him. If you plan an outing with your friends, thereby pampering yourself, he will interpret it as neglecting him. He will sulk and later fight over it.
He wants to know exactly how you know this guy
• The biggest blow to a male ego is the attention his ladylove might give to another homo-sapien. Many women find that hint of jealousy from their boyfriends quite flattering since it makes them feel cherished and important. The difference between jealousy and possessiveness is when your boyfriend is not satisfied with merely knowing that the guy you pay your attention to is just a colleague. He will dig for more and the questions may range from - is he in your department, is he married and how do you have so much to say to each other outside working hours! Unless, your mind works like a robot, the situation can call for a check and mate.
He decides on your wardrobe
• A woman needs space for many things and foremost is her wardrobe. She wants to decide on her attire and choice of clothes, as the lady wants to be comfortable and feel like an empress simultaneously. But if your partner is possessive, he would have things to tell you on your entire wardrobe. He would find your skirts too short, denims too tight and shirts too revealing. He will soon graduate from making suggestions to planning your wardrobe, to the extent that he might get rid of clothes that he feels show too much of 'his' woman. Tsk tsk you are in for some trouble lady.
Only a valid reason can allow you to visit your family
• Most possessive men do not like their partners spending time with their families, until they are there to invited to participate in the conversation. What if the girlfriend voices her displeasure over his attitude to her family and that can be a tricky situation. Given the strong female instinct, most mothers can spot a jerk from a mile away and their opinion might influence the naïve girlfriend's decision especially when their relationship is in the initial stages. And eventually the woman will see less and less of her family since her boyfriend is not 'comfortable' around them.
Tip: Talk it out to your boyfriend and assure him that you love him but need your space too.
